In this issue: Being poor – welfare mom, food stamps, and why she’s a marginal Jew. A new marriage ritual for domestic equality; plus Alix Kates Shulman’s Marriage Agreement. When my daughter became my son: seeing a child through transgender surgery. Bravely starting a women’s fund in Israel. Lilith’s fiction contest winners. Give your kidney to a stranger.

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by Susan Schnur

In which a very modern wedding is blessed by antiquity. Plus, a totally new (egalitarian) wedding vow, for use with your house ring. And more!

My Welfare Mom, Our Food Stamps, and Why I’m a Marginal Jew

by Andrea Kott

Class, caste, and cleaning the toilets at Brandeis. Feeling always illegitimate as a Jew, and now a parent herself, Kott approaches Judaism tentatively, suspiciously, and yearningly.

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How my Daughter Became my Son

by Judy Sennesh

Her daughter becomes her son, but Sennesh remains constant; “too calm,” her kid says. And parents of LGBTQ children get an instruction manual in “Casual Coming-Out Comments” by Catherine Tuerk — wise advice on how to let the world know your child is gay or lesbian.

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Sabbath Service

poetry by Kristin Camitta Zimet

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Gender and Generosity in Israel

by Elana Sztokman

An activist starts a women’s fund in Modi’in and discovers that kindness and cooking are the coin of the realm for women. How’s that gonna drive systemic change in women’s lives?

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Face Me

fiction by Elena Sigman

2012 Lilith fiction contest: 1st place winner

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fiction by Susan Dickman

2012 Lilith fiction contest: 2nd place winner

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fiction by Ruth Horowitz

2012 Lilith fiction contest: 3rd place winner

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Why I Gave a Kidney to a Stranger

by Devora Steinmetz

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